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Success with hypnosis, NLP, life and our own personal goals is what we aim at, and what we strive for, but it’s often a lousy teacher.

Let me put a question to you:

What is the one state of mind which is LEAST likely to cause you to learn, grow and advance as a person, or to gain increased skill in whatever area or field you focus on?

Is it anger, sadness, disappointment, embarrassment, or another negative emotion?

NO! Actually, the worst enemy of achievement is contentment, or comfort.

Contentment is the state of being comfortable where you are – of having no desire to move forward and to learn.

Whilst it’s great to feel contentment at some points and in some areas of your life, I believe that you should never be content with your level of skill as a hypnotist or persuader.

Why? Because no matter how good you are now, you can ALWAYS get better.

If, however, you find yourself feeling content with your skill level, you’re more likely to stagnate and remain snug in your comfort zone, than to reach for the next boundary, and continue pushing the envelope.

I was having a conversation with a good friend the other day, about the various successful people we knew.
Most very successful people had some kind of personal story of legend that they told to and about themselves, many of which followed the typical rags to riches vein; “I was poor. I made a life change. I worked hard. Now I’m rich.”

As we talked, we realized that neither of us knew, or had every even heard of, anyone whose success story / “legend” went more like “I was pretty happy with my lot in life. I made a life change. I worked really hard, and now I’m rich.”

Things just don’t work that way! Why? Because contentment kills motivation.

Does this mean that, contrary to all your current programming, you should shy away from success, and aim for failure? NO WAY! Success is what we’re after, and you should definitely enjoy your success! Relish it, and make the most out of every one of your achievements. Be happy with who you are, and feel pride about what you have accomplished.

But never stop, sink back into the couch, and say the life killing phrase “it’s good enough,” because no matter where you are in what area of your life, it can get better, and you owe it to yourself to be the best you can be.

When it comes to mastering a skill set like that of street hypnosis or NLP, I’m sure you can see how this is particularly true. There is no maximum level of achievement, no stage at which you can no longer improve.

The successful hypnotists I’ve known who have thought of themselves at that ultimate stage (and I’ve known several) have all invariably impaled upon their own swords. Whether it’s in the face of competition or their own crumbling self esteem, people who decide to stop growing always, with almost no exceptions, also decide to start dieing.

So, why push the envelope? Why always fight to be the very best you can be, and keep going to the next peak no matter how high you climb?

Two reasons. Firstly, as we have already discussed, when you are not growing, you’re dieing. Like a shark who needs to keep swimming lest it, effectively, drowns, so too do we need to keep advancing, keep learning and progressing, less we stagnate, lose our knowledge and our confidence, and fall apart.

But the second reason is still more key. Get this wrong, and, like most people, you’ll create a dirty goal. No matter how successful you are, if it’s for the wrong reasons, it will account for nothing.

If you want to achieve success to prove someone wrong, to impress people, to show the people who laughed and said you’d never do it, to finally see the admiration you longed for in other peoples eyes, and any other countless Hollywood themes, then you are actually doing yourself a massive disservice.

Any success, when done for the benefit of someone else, will be hollow. It won’t be about you, so no matter how successful you become, you’ll still be basing your sense of self on the reactions or imagined reactions of others. You put your power and self esteem in their hands, and the harder you work for their approval, the more you surrender your identity to their opinion.

No – true, fulfilling success is selfish. It’s about you, and only you. You want to change the world? Sure – do it. But do it because you want to. Because it has meaning to YOU – not because you think it will make others like you, or cause them to admire you.

For many this will be a hard nut to swallow. Don’t fret. Think on this, and the pieces will fall into place.

If you need more clarification, join my Core Inner Game program, and get yourself a copy of the book “Atlas Shrugged” by Ayn Rand. It’s an 1100 page master piece written in the 1950s that will blow your mind, and totally reframe the ideas of success, achievement, and true fulfilling happiness.

I read it on the ardent recommendations of internet millionaires and self development gurus alike – so take my word and grab a copy. This paperback philosophical novel will be worth more to you than a $10,000 worth of self development eCourses!

Hope you found this helpful – keep your eyes on the blog, some exciting things to unveil over the next few weeks.
Cheers,
Nathan Thomas

• Posted on Sunday, April 10th, 2011
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